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SOETLIEF Bully-Program

The Soetlief Bully-Program is about establishing Boundaries.

There are several options in addressing the challenge.

 

1. Plays

Plays are presented to the whole school as part of intervention or prevention by the school. 

There are several plays of ±40 minutes.  Each play focuses on one principle building upon another.  The principles are presented in a fun way.  Kids enjoy the storytelling, games and interactive aspects of the presentation.  It is most effective for pre-schools and primary schools. 

Teachers receive a lesson plan with different, short activities in order to do an overview and repetition of the principles learned. 

 

The following is a list of the plays:

Lesson Topic Explanation

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Establishing boundaries

Animal Manners  

My teacher; the classroom queen or king

Ownership

Poison frogs

Something and nothing

Making jokes

Mistakes

The thief

Germy and Immy

Making friends

Keeping friends

BFF or BF

Running in my lane

Winning when losing

Taking a ‘NO’ like a ‘yes’

Good and bad actions

Teacher’s job

Who owns what and respecting stuff

Verbal hurting

My responsibility and consequence

Jokes that hurt

Relief for the perfectionist

Communication principals

Internal focus of control

Practical steps

Turns, choices and bossiness

Encouraging group interaction vs fixation on one friend

Reason for rules

Bad losers

Acceptance and attitude

 

2. Class lessons

Lessons are presented to one class for 30 minutes.  The focus of the lesson is determined by whatever is a pressing challenge at the time. 

The advantage of class lessons is that it creates an opportunity for debriefing.  Kids get an opportunity to voice issues and concerns and the presenter gets a better understanding of the dynamic of the problem. 

The ideal is to have class lessons as a following-up on a play in order to ensure recognition of own mistakes, admitting to wrong doing, modification of behavior and rectification of wrong doing.

 

3. One-on-one

The program is a great form of intervention if your child is a victim of bullying.  It is important to empower the victim and break any possibility of establishing a cycle. 

It is difficult for a parent to deal with a situation where your child is considered a bully.  The job of a parent is to nurture and protect a child.  The best way to protect your child is to empower your child.  If your child is considered a bully it is possible that the child is knowingly or un-knowingly projecting a social cue that might be miss-interpreted. Finding the cue and adjusting behavior will provide a problem-solving learning experience for life.

 

Why the program works

 

Non-threatening

The emphasis is on the establishment of Boundaries.  The Program is called a Boundary Program and therefore does not pose a threat to the student or parent.

 

Recognition

The perpetrator recognizes ‘I am a Bully’.

 

No Sensitization

A focus on bully behavior may lead to sensitivity to negative behavior, resulting in irrational outcries, demands and expectations.  The Boundary Program does not focus on the Bully nor the behavior, but the boundary as a principle that is being violated. 

 

Integration

Perpetrators recognize their breaking of boundaries and the victim recognizes their maintaining of the cycle. 

 

Breaking the cycle of abuse

Perpetrator and offender is empowered with practical steps on how to break a cycle of abuse. 

 

Admit

Students admit to breaking a boundary and comply with carrying the consequence of breaking a boundary. 

 

Internal locus of control

Taking responsibility for my actions and accepting the outcome.

 

Rectification of wrong

It has long been a focus of Soetlief to move towards rectification of wrong behavior, as opposed to punishment of wrong.  Students are provided with steps to rectification. 

 

Positive group pressure

Students take responsibility for their classroom and those around them.  Students reprimand and call to accountability Boundary-Breakers and re-establish order within their boundary (classroom). 

 

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Programs for Children

By the age of 5 a child should be able to identify, control and express the four basic emotions in an appropriate way. By the age of 12 a child should be able to identify, control and express appropriately the more complex emotions. Soetlief offers a range of different programs designed to help children accomplish the mentioned emotional and social development outcome.

Soetlief offers programs for children aged 3-16 years.

 

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Programs for Parents

In addition to working with the emotional and social development of children we offer a range of programs to parents to assist in managing children's emotions in an effective way. The main goal of the Parent Programs is to be as practical and effective as possible.

 

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